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Hatred Or Not?

Sunday, December 14, 2008

I don't think anyone should harbour any hatred towards anyone. No matter how much harm someone inflicted on you, you shouldn't bottle it down in your heart. It will leave an emotional impact on your life forever as you're restricted to let your vindictive feelings known to that particular individual. And this is not healthy for your mind and soul. Yeah, so what if you tell that guy off for being a prick, he will take no consideration to any of your comments. So there you go, you've not only wasted your time trying to convince him but also wasted your precious saliva.

I've been through this kind of ordeal before, and seriously it sucks. The hateful perpetual thoughts of the person will make the vortex that's already exists in your heart bigger and then suck you into a vacuum of darkness, slowly tearing your soul apart. All in short, it just causes an disturbing emotional impact on you, and it becomes even worse than before.

Besides that, the people around you who are trying to change their perspective about you will be affected by that negative attitude you carry around. They will despise you even more, finding you immature and there'll be no more chances for you to change. Of course, if you want to change something about yourself, first of all, you've got to be open-minded and let criticisms strike you. Then after that, think to yourself: Hmm, what must I change about myself? Lastly, you have to strive for consistency in your change because if not, soon you will see yourself turning back to what you were.

But if you still think you're right, then don't change anything about yourself because you're original in every way. One way to check whether you're right or wrong is to see how many people dislike the way you do things. The more people there are, you're most probably on the wrong track to hell.

I watched a Hong Kong serial drama and there was this guy, acted by Kevin Cheng, who was framed by his close cousin (that retarded Ah Wang fellow) that he killed his step-father and Kevin Cheng had to serve 10 years of jail time. After being released, he plotted revenge against his cousin however in the end, he forgave and forgot about his cousin did to him. Yeah, though that happened after Kevin Cheng put his cousin in jail, but the point of it all, is to forgive and don't harbour hatred, which brings us back to the first sentence of this post.

After coming across Jason Mraz this year, I learnt not to keep everything unhappy bottled in my heart and just accept the way things are. Jason Mraz reminded me what friends are for and what love is all about. So what if your friends pissed you off a couple of times or even didn't talk to you for a while, it doesn't mean that they don't like you anymore. It's just that you're not their only friend. Besides this, they have a very busy life. So I learnt that one must treasure the times that he spend with their great friends and don't be a prick by feeling that they neglected you someway or the other.

Whatever someone has did you wrong, just try to forgive and forget about the whole matter. And don't be an ass by doing more harm after the guy gets his just desserts. What goes around will naturally comes around. Ever heard of karma? So living life without hatred is so much better than living a life filled with angst. It'll make your life a whole lot of difference, trust me. =)